EVERYTHING I NEVER TOLD YOU by Celeste Ng
This is not a happy book, but perhaps one of the most well-written I have ever read. It touches on themes of grief, the desire to belong, the mixing of cultures, living vicariously through others and being ahead of one’s time. These are wrapped up in succinct, but emotionally evocative, prose so beautifully rendered that I found myself wanting to re read many of the passages out loud.
The story takes place during the 1950’s ‘60’s and 70’s and revolves around the marriage and family life of a first generation Chinese-American man and his WASP wife in a mid-western small town. His lifelong desire to fit in to American culture and her lifelong regrets about not pursuing a medical career set the stage for conflict with both of their families and consequences for their children.
The first line of the book tells you their daughter has drowned under apparently mysterious circumstances. That sets the stage for the couple to look back on both their lives, informing us to why they act the way they do. In some chapters we get their children’s point of view, including the one who has died.
As the reader, it is clear to see the mistakes they have made, and continue to make when they fail time and again to communicate and to appreciate how their actions are doing harm to themselves and the ones they love. That is part of the tension of the story. You just want to tell them to stop!
Interesting, heart-rending, thoughtful and beautifully written.
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Friends of the Grafton Public Library Board Meeting
August 25, 2015
Attending: Betci Weldon, Ellen Goguen, Alberta Durfee, Gail Poler, Gail Wixon, Mary Tulloch, Donna
Tainor, Michelle Dalal, Dan Cusher, Aaron Swartz, Elinor Tidman
Staff: Beth Gallaway, Heidi Fowler
Trustees: Doug Bowman, Gary Beauchamp
Finances: End of June 2015 Report distributed. It was noted that the cost of museum passes seemed higher than usual, but this was due to two passes (the Aquarium and Boston Museum of Science) being paid early and therefore twice in one fiscal year.
Down Under: Grafton Public School teachers have been allowed a number of free books from Down Under. Mary requested a new policy on free books for out of town teachers to include: ID required, and numbers of free books they may have. Hank Poler has drafted a policy and Mary is to get it to Betci. Information on the free books for Grafton Teachers needs to be disseminated and Donna Trainor volunteered to take information to the schools. If there is a request for free or discounted books, the request must be taken to Beth Gallaway, Library Director, or Mary Tulloch. The Library Staff is not to be made responsible for this decision.
Thanks were offered to Gary for his work in making Down Under look so much nicer.
Membership: Ellen Goguen will email the current membership list to the new Membership Chairman, Dan Cusher. Along with the Friends Membership form information needs to be sent out in September requesting everyone attend the Town Meeting on October 19, 2015. There will be a vote to allow the Library to go for another grant for an addition. There was considerable discussion on the best way to get this information out to Grafton voters which included: a membership drive to the Town’s 10,000 households by postcard, insert in the Grafton News, Friends to organize advocacy groups, door-to-door information sharing, Moms of Grafton Facebook page, make joining the Friends of the Grafton Public Library available on line. Marketing for this Town Meeting is our number one priority.
Construction and Grant: Beth Gallaway presented information on the October 19th Town Meeting and the Library’s grant request on the warrant for this meeting. The complete grant request is due to the MBLC January 2017, building needs baseline is due this fall, and a design is due summer of 2016. The vote in October is to the Library to apply for the grant, pay for an architect and set up a building committee. Funds for the architect would be $75,000 — $20,000 will be from leftover funds and $55,000 would be from free cash. Johnson and Roberts, our previous architects, have shown interest in this new
Grant proposal, and it might be possible to revise the plans made for the last grant. The MBLC has said that Grafton does not need to provide information on an alternate site. The plan is to be modest and conservative, but we must meet basic services and the MBLC will not accept bare bones. It was noted that the Grafton Public Library is the ONLY library in Massachusetts without a meeting room.
The kitchen renovation will start at the end of September or early October. Beth will be given a heads up as soon as Alan Harvey gives us a start date. The total for this renovation is $5,000.
Historic Book Sale: Gary Beauchamp presented the plans for the September 7, 2015 Historic Book Sale, which will take place in the library’s Children Room and Down Under. Ads will be in 5 newspapers, including the T&G, and Gary believes there will be a large number of people. Friends’ members will be helping during the sale. There is a $10 early entrance fee; checks will be accepted, book bags given out to the first 25 people. There will be old books, prints, maps, and magazines as well as the books in Down Under available for sale. Gary has put a great deal of work into this book sale.
By-Laws Revision: The Friends By-Laws need to be revised. A committee has been set up to look at the current By-Laws and those of other libraries, then draft a revision and submit it to the Board. The question was raised do we need to have the entire membership vote on the revised By-Laws. This will be looked into.
Up-coming Events: “What the Library Can Do For You” essay contest for elementary, middle and high school students and adults. Children’s essays may be illustrated. Prizes will be awarded for each group and winners will be printed in the Grafton News. A $10 gift certificate to Down Under for each winner was approved by the Board. Michelle and Betci volunteered to help read the essays. It was suggested that the essays be used in our push for the grant. Michelle will check on the costs for an ad in the Grafton News and contact the school principals to get the information to students.
Outreach: Octoberfest, October 17th, we will have a free table to promote the Library and the Friends. The Library will once again be participating in the Grafton Celebrates the Holidays, and Gail Poler will ask if the Friends could have a table at the Apple Pie Social this year.
There was discussion about the Friends selling library merchandise to raise funds, which has not been successful in the past. Beth said that the Library Bags provided at the Night Out went very fast. The Board felt that there was not enough room to have a “shop” and certainly the Staff should not be asked to handle sales. We will look into bags, ID holders and then go from there. Some items could be used for prizes and incentives.
Other: Beth Gallaway has looked two pressure-treated picnic tables with benches plus an umbrella. The tables, 8’ in length, would be $600 per table. The Board will discuss this purchase by email.
Next Board Meeting will be Tuesday, September 22, 2015.
The Grafton Public Library is offering a 4 week class session titled “Getting to Know Your Ukulele.” This class will be taught by Jan Barlow of Apple Tree Arts and is for beginners ages 9 and up (that includes teens and adults too!). The classes will be held from 6:30-7:30 p.m. every Tuesday in October beginning October 6th and will meet at the Congregational Church of Grafton, 30 Grafton Common, Grafton, MA. This free class is limited to 8 participants. Participants need to bring a ukulele to the class. The Library has 4 ukuleles available to check out for the course of the session and the instructor also has 1 ukulele for loan. Please stop by the Library or call 508-839-4649 to register for this program and reserve a ukulele.
Mr. Kim is coming back to the Grafton Public Library for more Friday Fun on October 9th! Friday Fun with Mr. Kim is a monthly music and movement program for preschoolers ages 2 and up. Mr. Kim Webster, a faculty member of the Grafton based non-profit music organization Apple Tree Arts, weaves music and puppetry to entertain and educate young musical minds. The program will take place on the second Friday of each month, October through May. Registration opens one week prior to the program (the first Friday of each month) and anyone on the wait list will automatically be placed in the next months’ session. For questions or to register, please call the Library at 508-839-4649.
This summer marked the 20 year anniversary of Clueless’s opening in CA movie theaters (and nationwide a week later). The fashion, the slang, the talent! and the soundtrack combined to create a sleeper hit teen movie with widespread appeal. Based on Jane Austen’s classic matchmaking story, Emma, Clueless won 8 awards, including Best Screenplay from the National Society of Film Critics but sadly missed the Oscar, in part due to it’s unfortunate categorization as a derivative work.
In this interview-style book, Jen Cheney shares memory and insight from the major players from the stars, director, producer, promoters, wardrobe, even bands featured in the movie and on the soundtrack. The book also places Clueless neatly in context of cinema history, and pop culture, showing how a seemingly fluffy story of a Beverly Hills socialite changed the grunge scene, empowers women and influenced music, television film for years to come, most recently in Iggy Azalea’s “Fancy“video, which recreates a number of iconic scenes from the film, down to the actual wardrobe.
A must-read for any fan of the film, As If! is organized chronologically from concept and then through each major scene, with forays into the worlds of costume, music and reviews. The author pieces together interviews (new and past) to stitch together a seamless narrative that makes the reader feel as if all the participants are in a room sitting in a circle and feeding off one another’s comments.
Missing throughout is Brittany Murphy’s voice, lost in 2009. A tribute at the end memorializes her without dipping into oversentimentality.
Read more about Clueless with these 22 fun facts, go see the revival playing at the Coolidge Theatre this fall, or borrow it from the Library today! Watch for the Broadway version to debut (pending funding) in the next few years.
The Grafton Public Library will be CLOSED in observation of Columbus Day on Monday, October 12, 2015. No items are due this day. The Library will reopen at 10:00 AM on Tuesday, October 13.
Museum passes for Monday may be picked up in advance on Thu (10-9) or Fri (10-5) or Sat (10-5).
Please visit our digital branch online to read a newspaper, check out an eBook, learn a new language, and more!
We will be discussing Invisible City by Julia Dahl.
Description: Just months after Rebekah Roberts was born, her mother, an Hasidic Jew from Brooklyn, abandoned her Christian boyfriend and newborn baby to return to her religion. Neither Rebekah nor her father have heard from her since. Now a recent college graduate, Rebekah has moved to New York City to follow her dream of becoming a big-city reporter. But she’s also drawn to the idea of being closer to her mother, who might still be living in the Hasidic community in Brooklyn. Then Rebekah is called to cover the story of a murdered Hasidic woman. Rebekah’s shocked to learn that, because of the NYPD’s habit of kowtowing to the powerful ultra-Orthodox community, not only will the woman be buried without an autopsy, her killer may get away with murder. Rebekah can’t let the story end there. But getting to the truth won’t be easy–even as she immerses herself in the cloistered world where her mother grew up, it’s clear that she’s not welcome, and everyone she meets has a secret to keep from an outsider. In her riveting debut, journalist Julia Dahl introduces a compelling new character in search of the truth about a murder and an understanding of her own heritage
You can stop by the library to pick up a copy or you can reserve a copy at http://bark.cwmars.org/eg/opac/record/3304132?query=invisible%20city;qtype=keyword;locg=1. Please register for this program by calling 508-839-4649 or emailing email@example.com.
We are pleased to announce that we now have passes to the Mystic Aquarium in Mystic, Connecticut.
The mission of the Mystic Aquarium is to inspire people to care for and protect our ocean planet through conservation, education and research.
The Aquarium is open year round, every day except for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
REGULAR ADMISSION: Adult $ 34.99, Seniors (60+) $29.99, Youth (13-17) $28.99, Children (3-12) $24.99, Children 2 and under are free.
THE LIBRARY PASS offers $5 off per person for up to four people.
Please visit our Passes Page for more information and to reserve a pass!